I have rarely heard people discuss the changes they experience as the seasons change. Except, that is, in conversations within the privacy of the therapy room. In my role as a psychotherapist and more recently also as a nature-wellbeing practitioner I hear of the challenges and struggles people face as the seasons change. Typically, they don’t make the link, don’t recognise how natural it is to feel more tired, to want to retreat inwards and to replace the cold salads of summer with the warmth and comfort of soups and stews. What I hear in my clients is a self-criticism and a sense of somehow being ‘wrong’ because they can’t maintain this myth of consistency that we’re fed and which modern life might ask of us. They ‘push through,’ ashamed or embarrassed to name what they see as a weakness or failing of some kind. For many, understanding that these changes are normal and natural is a relief.
If you recognise yourself in the above description it’s time to replace that mean critical voice with a kind, open-hearted curiosity (a good intention whenever your inner critic comes calling) and rather than berate yourself, ask ‘how am I experiencing myself right now?’, ‘what is shifting in me and what is this telling me that I need?’ It may be unfamiliar to turn inward for answers, but we all have a wise inner-knowing and if you listen carefully you will get an answer. Once you know what you need you can then make the necessary adjustments so that you can thrive through this season. Of course, there may be practical limitations to this but having the awareness can help us make decisions in line with better self-care. In fact, the mere fact of witnessing and naming our needs can be affirming and nourishing. It feels good to be seen and heard, including by ourselves.
Over time you will start to know your ‘seasonal self’ and which adjustments you need to make to your lifestyle as summer becomes autumn. While you’re finding your ‘autumn self’ you may want to look to nature for some hints. She is a wise teacher with a lot of experience in this area!